Roadside Crosses

roadside crossOn my daily commute, I pass a couple of crosses on the side of the road. At first I felt sad knowing each cross represented a life that was lost. After a while I began to wonder about the person who was killed. Male or female? Young or old? Was the person the driver or a passenger in the accident that took his/her life? What happened to cause the accident? An animal in the road? Bad weather? Did something go wrong with the car, such as a blown tire or brake failure?

What about the family and friends that were left behind? The roadside crosses shows that someone loved and misses the person who was killed. What happens when the family member grows old? Is there a younger generation who will place new flowers at the site and make sure the cross is in good condition?

I am not sure which is sadder, a new cross with lots of flowers or the old cross that is broken with flowers that have faded with time.

roadside crossDoes the older cross mean that the family has grown too old to take care of the site? Maybe they had to move away. Maybe times as healed their wounds and lessened the pain enough that they don’t feel the need to dwell on the loss of the loved one. Maybe their grief is still so strong that they cannot stand the pain of visiting the site.

So the next time you see a cross on the side of the road, take a moment to think about the person it represents and the family left behind. Then take a moment to think about your own life. If you were killed in a tragic accident, who would place a cross for you? Who would take care of the site? How long would they grieve for you? Would you want them to keep grieving or would you want them to move on and be happy?

Now that you have those thought running around in your head … are you going to make changes in the way you live? Make sure you tell the people in your life that you love them … let them know how much they mean to you.

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